When your toddler hits you, it can feel personal and intentional. It can feel like they are rejecting you. It may also worry you because you know that behavior is unacceptable and cannot simply be ignored or reinforced. That can bring up all sorts of feelings in parents: frustration, worry, shame, urgency, helplessness, even defeat. But what if, in that moment, your child is not rejecting you? What if they actually need you deeply right then? That shift in perspective can com

We all lose our cool from time to time. You know like when all your kids get into a giggly fit at the exact moment you’re trying to explain something important, and you end up screaming just to be heard. Or, when your breastfeeding baby bites your nipple for the seventh time that day and it hurts so bad you yank them away and say feeding time is over. And even when it’s time to go, you’ve told them to put their shoes on three times, and suddenly you’re threatening to take awa

When things feel off at home, when the meltdowns are getting louder, the defiance is getting more frequent, or you just feel like you’re losing the connection you once had, the first thought for many parents is: “ Do we need therapy? ” It’s a natural question. When things feel off, most of us start looking for help outside of ourselves. We’ve been taught that when behavior is “big,” we need a clinical intervention. And let’s be clear: Therapy is a life-changing resource . It